You Already Know
I was having a conversation with two amazing young women today. They’re not only amazing because they are my step-daughter and niece, but because they are leaders in their own right. They truly follow their own paths and are led by what’s inside. Many people struggle with making decisions and often ask “what is the best decision for me?”. This question is asked around so many different areas of our lives. We ponder whether we’re choosing the right career, buying the best car or house, choosing the right place for dinner, etc. Usually we seek external advice for the answers to our questions, but really ALL of the answers to EVERY question lives inside of us. I know you say, if I had all the answers then I wouldn’t be struggling with this question. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to seek external advice or guidance for most of our dilemmas. While our family and friends have great intentions and are concerned about our well-being, they could never give us the best answer for our problems. They can only give us the best advice for themselves for our problems. Yes, read it again! They can only give us the best advice or solutions for themselves for what’s best for us. There are a few reasons for this. No matter how close they are to you, they are not privy to all aspects of your life that make you uniquely you. Also, our brains are designed to make safety our highest priority. So, most people’s advice will be rooted in what makes them feel safe when looking at your situation. For example, if I asked for advice on leaving my job, but the person I asked usually views me as stable and someone they can depend on; then subconsciously they may factor how me leaving my job will affect them. Will I remain stable and dependable without my job? How will this affect them? Therefore, the advice they give will encompass these thoughts as well as their model of the world. Now this person most likely has the best intentions for me, but their own safety comes first. This doesn’t mean that discussing situations with others has no benefits but first seek your own inner guidance. You innately know what’s best for you and sometimes you must get reacquainted with your inner voice so you can hear the guidance that’s being provided. Most of us have had times in our lives where we just had a “feeling”. This is our intuition and it’s always present. We usually just need to slow down and get quiet to hear the guidance being offered. When its all said and done, relax and trust yourself because you already know all the answers.